you dont need any one to tell you ur beautiful just u, ur family, and friends!!!!!!!

Hi Miranda,
I liked your post, thanks for sharing and having the courage to bare your soul so to speak to a bunch of strangers. As far as the feeling pretty thing goes. Now this is just me and my two cents worth, but self esteem and self worth are an inside job. They are something you give to yourself because you choose to. You really don't need anyone else to tell you that you are pretty. You want to see beautiful just look in the mirror. It's all attitude. I do mirror work everyday. As long as I remember to, every time I step in front of a mirror I look myself directly in the eyes and say "I am beautiful, and I love and approve of myself exactly the way I am". You may not believe it at first, but give it a little time and eventually it takes hold of you and you are never the same person ever again. Self love changes you forever. Have yourself a fabulous weekend Miranda. Take care.....Todd

I've been lied to, in the exact same way. We'd been friends for a long time, and she'd just had sex for the first time. So we started talking, and before long, we were kissing. she kept telling me I was flawless, beautiful, and everything else, but she didn't break up with her boyfriend. i know for a fact that she expected a threesome so she could have her boyfriend and her girl-toy at the same time. she didn't love me. she didn't even know for three full months when i had a traumatic brain injury.

so i dumped her. it might have been the hardest thing i've ever done. I still miss her sometimes, but i don't even think about her that much.

and i've found a way to still be self-confident. I have a couple of really good friends who supported me through it, and it sounds like you do, too. the trick is to see, not that she wronged you and her girlfriend, but how you learned what not to do in a relationship.

for what it's worth, i think you did the right thing, telling the other girl. if your ex loved you, she wouldn't have done any of that... and i know that you feel used, and like she lied (which she did), but that doesn't mean that she was lying about everything. she must have liked something about you, or she wouldn't have cheated with you... in a way, it's kind of a complement. i think you're beautiful, to have not let her do that to another girl.

and about confidence - you did nothing wrong here! your girlfriend hurt and betrayed you. you're still the same confident person you used to be, you've just learned more about the girl you loved and more about yourself. none of that has changed.

flawed also,
-Alex